Overthinking is about self-doubt and anxiety. It is about worrying that you are never going to get it “right” and needing to be in control at all times.

Here are some tips to help you stop this exhausting habit.

• Know that you will make mistakes, just like everyone else. Perfection is impossible and doesn’t exist. Trying to be perfect stops us from trying and taking risks. Don’t put yourself on a pedestal because you will fall off
• Connect to your intuition, which I define as a loving, accepting, protective force. It is always with you, helping you make decisions that are best for you. When you are connected to intuition, you are never alone.
• Remember that life is not a contest. We don’t get a medal at the end of our lives for looking a certain way, having the perfect job, raising perfect kids or anything for that matter. We are most remembered for how we treat each other.
• There is no rule book for growing up, what number should appear on a scale, “good or bad” jobs or about what success means. We all learn as we go.
• When you try to control everything, you are setting yourself up for misery if life doesn’t fit your agenda and timetable. You don’t leave room for surprises, spontaneity or for what God or Spirit has in store for you. Often when things don’t turn out the way we think they should, they turn out better.
• Overthinking is based in fear. Challenge your fears by writing down everything that scares you and choosing just one item on the list to face and overcome. The more you do that, the more you will realize that the majority of fears are created by us and are only in our heads.